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Do I have to shag every time we have a snog?

I love kissing the Husband.

I’m not talking about a peck: I’m talking about the good old fashioned pash/tongue kiss/snog/French kiss/make out/necking/sucking face.

That romantic, long and slow glorious wet snogging that makes you feel like you’re the only couple in the world.

Love it.

Kissing to me is still a real Mills and Boon romance moment. To the Husband though, it’s really just a preview to a Debbie does Dallas Porn Star moment in the bedroom.

Kissing to men in relationships is purely a precursor to sex.

Full stop.

Exclamation mark.

I recently conducted another one of my extensive surveys (read, 5 women over drinks, three women over the phone, 2 mums at my kids sport and 2 husbands) about kissing and I now know this to be a complete fact.
Women in relationships no longer get to have the long slow Blue Light Disco pash without ‘someone’ trying to swing a leg.

Fact.

If you kiss your partner passionately, don’t think you can just close your eyes and go to sleep without some serious annoying back poking happening.

Fact.

Remember the good old days of the Blue Light Disco when you were sooooo excited to pash spunky Nick or Johnny in the back corner?

Even back then Nick or Johnny weren’t being romantic, they were using this as a way to show you their intentions. Don’t you remember feeling Nick’s intentions through his 501 Jeans on your thigh? 😳

I know romance is alive and well but to my husband (and apparently everyone else’s) a long slow pash equals the start of foreplay – or in some cases the actual foreplay.

Again…fact.

So here’s the deal, if I don’t want to have sex, I give the Husband 3 quick goodnight kisses.

Just quick ones.

They are on the lips, but I do tend to make them quick. No tongue or any real open mouth, a two metre space between the lower parts of the body – all in a bid to signify it’s not “game day” If I make the mistake of opening my mouth, have an accidental boob rub or thigh grab while kissing, it’s on like Donkey Kong.

Am I completely insane and live in a non-intimate relationship? Of course not! We have three kids, a healthy relationship, moments of romance smattered throughout our week and pashing sessions immediately followed by (thankfully non child producing) lovemaking.

As far as the husband is concerned, I should be happy that he wants to jump me every time we kiss. Flattering? Sure, but he’s a guy…it’s in their very nature 🙄

I tell you what though..it would be nice to have a big old pash and not have to put out afterwards.

What do you think?

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The snip party

My husband is at a ‘snip party’ ✂️✂️✂️✂️✂️✂️✂️✂️

Yup.

I’m not really sure if it’s actually a thing or if he is just trying to be a trendsetter.

You see, he and his friend both went to get a vasectomy today and then decided to go and have a couple of beers together to celebrate.

Seriously.

They even wore matching shirts, had the same sweaty palms and the giggling nervous schoolgirl laughter.

As a female I have very strong feelings about the emotion involved in getting a vasectomy. I understand the whole nervous “I’m getting gelded” thing, and even the hilarious thigh-slapping comments like “ooohhhhh, someone aside from you will be touching my balls.”

Seriously.

But really… the “we need to have as much sex as possible for two months to ensure there’s no swimmers still getting through…and that’s the doctors instructions” is just a tad too much. That was clearly a freaking male doctor trying to help him out. Let me just say that until I hear it personally from a female physician, I’m calling Mrs B.U.L.L.S.H.I.T.

While I’m at it, is there any other woman out there who had a “my baby tore my foofa so let’s go out and have a few wines to celebrate” party after the birth of their child?

Anyone?

I’m not even sure why there’s a ‘Wet the Baby’s Head’ celebration. Is it because they just pushed a baby out of their boy bits?

I’m confused.

I was as jealous as hell that ‘The Husband’ went out and had a night on the turps while I was in hospital getting my nipples torn apart by a non-sleeping, continuously crying, meconium-pooping new born baby.

Now as you know, my husband is a freaking champion and I don’t begrudge him a good time. But really, shouldn’t I have organised a version of ‘Wet the Baby’s Head’ with the girls to celebrate my husband getting gelded? Perhaps I could have called it a ‘No More Withdrawal Method’ party.

I’m no raging femmo, but wouldn’t that have been fair?

Fair or not, I might just pop a bottle of bubbles now to celebrate

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Leave pass

I’m a happily married mother of three.

That statement however does not preclude me from having a leave pass – and it’s been Adam Levine for a very long time. There’s something about Maroon 5’s lead singer that makes my ovaries quiver and my mind wander to inappropriate places. I understand that it’s not realistic as he has a freaking gorgeous Victoria’s Secret model as a wife, but hey, isn’t that the point?

My husband Adam (my real husband Adam, not the Levine one) indulges this little obsession and doesn’t judge me if a music clip comes on and the urge to lick the tv screen is too hard to resist. My little girls don’t even think it’s unusual for mum to just stare at the screen with the same wistful smile they save for Justin Beiber.

Most of my friends (both male and female) have leave passes that are interesting and varied;

Matt Damon (agreed!)
Margot Robbie
Jason Stratham
David Beckham
Ben Affleck
Karl Stefanovic
Justin Beiber (disargree but whatever floats your boat)
Orlando Bloom (she swears it’s not because of his paddle boarding dick pics)
Emma Stone
Bon Jovi
Channing Tatum
Chris Hemsworth
Ellen Degeneres
Joe Manganiello

Then I have the other friends who say they don’t have a leave pass because they love their husband/partner/girlfriend too much. OMG, yawn and vomit at the same time. To those non leave pass believers, I’m screaming “bullshit!”

Who is your leave pass?

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Drinking Parents Categories

I love watching people at parties and drinking parents are my absolute favourite. Over the last few years I’ve noticed drinking parents always end up in different categories. Here are a few of my favourites:

1. The Careful Drinkers – these are the parents that go out as a couple and stay together for the entire night. It’s like they always have the others back so that no enjoyment can be had by either partner. They talk to you as a couple and always end up talking about how wonderful their kids are. I like this couple but tend to look at them as the fun police. They never get drunk and have a tendency to be a little Judgy McJudgy on all of the other categories. Can always be seen in the company of other Careful Drinkers and have little shits as children.

2. The Want To Be Young Again Dad Drinkers – these guys walk in and make a beeline for the other dad drinkers and talk football and surfing and their son’s football and surfing. They’ll start the night with good intentions by drinking mid strength beer… hours later – good intentions gone – you’ll find them playing British Bulldog 123 or UFC fighting while pausing for shots of rum/tequila and weeing behind the garden shed. Generally married to Swearing Fuc$%#@ Mum Drinkers and Hot Mess Mum Drinkers

3. The Swearing Fuc$%#@ Mum Drinkers – this is definitely one of my favourite groups. They arrive and start networking through the room regaling stories of their amazing kids, other school mums and their single friends who sadly haven’t met someone yet. After a few chardonnays, they’re talking about their a-hole kids and how they destroyed their once perfect perky boobs, those lucky single bitches they know and they’ll be giving lessons on how to evade your husband when he wants sex – they’ll say things like “just slap the tip on his effing dick and he won’t show it to you again” Basically they’ll just swear like a hooker gypped out of $20 on a Friday night in Kings Cross. Generally found in the company of everyone by the end of the night

4. The Muhammed Ali Drinking couple – we’ve all been there. You’re both two-or maybe five- sheets to the wind and everything is fabulous. Your husband accidentally looks in the general vicinity of that bitch you went to school with 20 years ago and it’s on like Donkey Kong. Just short of chanting ‘fight fight fight’ your friends all take steps back and wait for the show to start. This couple always ends up at the front of the house with the husband weeing on the next door neighbours’ car while telling his wife to go to hell. The wife reacts by calling him a tool and screaming “WE’RE LEAVING NOW YOU A-HOLE!!!!. Generally the topic of conversation in all categories by the end of the night

5. The Jekyl and Hyde/Hot Mess Couple – at first glance, this couple are very responsible conservative parents that just haven’t been out for a while. They drink quickly and look at their phones expecting a “your kids are sick” call to stuff up their night. Within 2 hours they’re drunk, forgotten they have kids and are demanding shots really really loudly. They’ll start dancing on the couch thinking it’s a dance floor while absolutely destroying Whitney Houston and Bon Jovi songs in a strange high pitched screaming voice. One or both of this couple will vomit in a pot plant before 2am and continue drinking only to then pass out on the front lawn. Initially can be found with your non drinking parents but after the third drink work out their rookie error.

6. The Seasoned Parent Drinkers – these are the most professional of the group. They can drink two bottles of wine/case of beer each and maintain coherent conversations till the end of the night. The next morning you’ll find them on the sideline of their kids football match in their BCF folding chair, drinking double strength coffee and wearing dark sunglasses. Probably shouldn’t have driven to the oval but nothing gets in the way of Johnny’s football. This couple is hard core and tend to associate with all categories during the night. Approach with caution as they’ll force feed their less experienced friends drinks… just for the fun of it.

7. The couple with no kids– they get drunk and have fun knowing there is no chance of a child waking them up 2 hours after they arrive home. Can be seen in the company of all categories throughout the night. Smug bastards…

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Porn Star

I’m pretty sure my husband thought he was marrying a porn star.

I was 35 when we first met and pretty chuffed I’d met a 30 year-old fireman who was into me (and yes, I know there’s a pun there). He was – and still is – a bloke’s bloke who rowed surf boats, built stuff and was a sexy beast in general. I was working in radio, living in Sydney and had only just declared that singledom was going to be my lot in life…so happy days all round.

I’m not going to divulge how long it took us to become bone crushingly intimate, but I still was learning that his surname started with a C and not a K. Lordy me, it was ridiculously passionate, random and lasted for hours on end. The kitchen bench used to shy away from us in fear, rest stops on long drives were not in fact rest stops and a marathon on a Sunday night was not Game of Thrones, episodes 1 – 8. If he had changed his name to Dallas and called me Debbie, I wouldn’t have blamed him…I haven’t actually seen that film, but I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t have had to audition for the leads.

Fast forward ten years, three kids and 10 kilos (maybe 15, but shut up) and things are ever so slightly different. And when I say different, I mean DIFFERENT. The porn star Debbie has left the building – to the point that if we made an imaginary sequel I wonder if ‘the husband’ would want to call it ‘Dallas does Dallas because Debbie is too Knackered and the Kids Won’t Pee Off”

Don’t get me wrong, we still have very regular moments (sorry husband, I meant hours) of mind blowing, crazy good times in the bedroom, but the kitchen bench now stands proudly unscathed. We’ve tried a few times but our kids have a habit of knowing exactly when I’m offering a lovely dish and spatulas and undies go flying. Rest stops on trips are now sadly just a wee stop for the kids and marathons on a Sunday night is really Games of Thrones episodes 1 – 8.

The difference between men and women is very simple: If a husband tries to rouse his wife from sleep and there’s no fire, she’ll want to stab him in the eyeball. If a woman nudges her man with the promise of some lovin’ he’d be awake and smiling like a chubby kid on Easter morning.

I really don’t know the point of writing this… except to say that it’s ok if you’re not a major porn star after you have kids…as long as your inner Goddess makes a regular (ish) appearance, all will be fab in the world.

I’m pretty sure my husband thought he was marrying a porn star. I was 35 when we first met and pretty chuffed I’d met a 30 year-old fireman who was into me (and yes, I know there’s a pun there). He was – and still is – a bloke’s bloke who rowed surf boats, built stuff and was a sexy beast in general. I was working in radio, living in Sydney and had only just declared that singledom was going to be my lot in life…so happy days all round. I’m not going to divulge how long it took us to become bone crushingly intimate, but I still was learning that his surname started with a C and not a K. Lordy me, it was ridiculously passionate, random and lasted for hours on end. The kitchen bench used to shy away from us in fear, rest stops on long drives were not in fact rest stops and a marathon on a Sunday night was not Game of Thrones, episodes 1 – 8. If he had changed his name to Dallas and called me Debbie, I wouldn’t have blamed him…I haven’t actually seen that film, but I’m pretty sure we wouldn’t have had to audition for the leads. Fast forward ten years, three kids and 10 kilos (maybe 15, but shut up) and things are ever so slightly different. And when I say different, I mean DIFFERENT. The porn star Debbie has left the building – to the point that if we made an imaginary sequel I wonder if ‘the husband’ would want to call it ‘Dallas does Dallas because Debbie is too Knackered and the Kids Won’t Pee Off” Don’t get me wrong, we still have very regular moments (sorry husband, I meant hours) of mind blowing, crazy good times in the bedroom, but the kitchen bench now stands proudly unscathed. We’ve tried a few times but our kids have a habit of knowing exactly when I’m offering a lovely dish and spatulas and undies go flying. Rest stops on trips are now sadly just a wee stop for the kids and marathons on a Sunday night is really Games of Thrones episodes 1 - 8. The difference between men and women is very simple: If a husband tries to rouse his wife from sleep and there’s no fire, she’ll want to stab him in the eyeball. If a woman nudges her man with the promise of some lovin’ he’d be awake and smiling like a chubby kid on Easter morning. I really don’t know the point of writing this… except to say that it’s ok if you’re not a major porn star after you have kids…as long as your inner Goddess makes a regular (ish) appearance, all will be fab in the world.